On Easter Sunday, an angel on earth left us too suddenly and too soon. His name is Ryan Suenaga. I’m not a very religious person and Ryan would find it funny that I’m referring to him as an angel because, 1) he was a Buddhist and 2) he didn’t act like an angel. But, that’s how Ryan thought of himself. He was self-deprecating, but he was an amazing person. He was very wise.
I met Ryan through my ex-boyfriend who worked with Ryan at Hale Kipa in the early 1990s. We all became fast friends and we hung out quite a bit: basketball games, movies and dinners out, parties. It went on like that for about two years. Then we all kind of fell out of touch, especially when my boyfriend and I broke up. But, through the years, I’ve thought of Ryan and thought of contacting him. I never did though because of his connection with my ex. In the short time I’ve known him, he’s impacted my life tremendously. I remember his crazy, funny stories and even influenced how I clean house…and that is to not make a mess in the first place. Like he aptly demonstrated one day when we were visiting with him at his parent’s house: he was eating a cookie over the kitchen sink and I asked him why he was doing that and he said “So I don’t have to clean up the crumbs.” I swear I still do that myself…almost 20 years since his demo.
Like I said, even though we only hung out for two years or so, I have so many great and hilarious memories of Ryan: the basketball games at Kanewai Park then the dinners at Gina’s, the premiere nights of big, box office movies at the old Waikiki 1, 2, and 3, the gathering with other Hale Kipa co-workers, Cowboys and Lakers game viewing parties….
I was so excited one day when one of the commenters on a blog I read was Ryan. I went to his blog and wrote him a message, reintroducing myself. He remembered me and I felt that it was with fondness. I’m so sad that I didn’t reach out to him sooner…
Then the news of his passing. I was shocked. Then saddened. Just a few weeks ago I contemplated whether to send him a friend request on Facebook. Then I decided not to because he was fb friends with someone I disliked…what a small world. Now, I regret not sending that friend request because I know he would have confirmed my request.
The title of this blog loosely translates to “be blessed and beautiful” or “be already prosperous,” depending on the Japanese kanji for the name “Mieko.” Ryan was truly an angel who, by his very presence in your life, however long or short, made you feel blessed, beautiful, and prosperous. But, he didn’t realize that he was the blessed and beautiful one because of his beautiful heart and soul…he always put people before himself….
Ryan reminds me of Clarence from “It’s a Wonderful Life.” I think he’s saved a lot of people without realizing it.
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